Wednesday, September 24, 2014

LIFE AFTER BOTH OF MY FALLOPIAN TUBES REMOVED

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Last week I had an appointment with my doctor in Penang to continue the check up process before having the IVF* treatment. When the result came out, the doctor found out that there are cyst and fluid inside my uterus which, according to him, could possibly came from menstruation blood or blood that stuck inside of the uterus after I had big surgery on the previous four months. Those cyst and fluid are harmless, but they are possibly failing the IVF process that I’m going to take. I was surprised ‘cause they weren’t there when I had a medical check up last month.

Sometimes I thought, why problems keep on coming to me? I’d struggled in fighting the post-surgery pain from the previous surgery in Jakarta for one year and a half, suffering unrealistic pain during my periods for about eight months, having another painful surgery (more painful than Caesar since I had a vertical abdominal incision), and finally, facing the truth that I had to lose my fallopian tubes. As a result, I couldn’t get pregnant naturally. I even haven’t got pregnant once.

Doctor told me that there’s a way to remove the cyst and fluid inside my uterus. He said that I have to get a small surgery, yet he needs to monitor my condition before doing so. Feels like all those that I faced and now facing aren’t enough, I still have to do daily fertility injection to produce the eggs. The injection itself doesn’t hurt, but what comes after the injection does. I always get dizzy, nauseous, and become extremely tired. All I want to do during those times would be taking a nap.

Telling you this story doesn’t mean that I complain about my life.

I’m not sad. I’d been in that time long before now, so there’s no point to be sad again and again. I don’t blame God, nor anybody. At least, those problems got me thinking that this saying is true: “What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.” I feel stronger than I used to, I become immune to whatever kinds of pain. Even my doctor confuses those problems that I should go through. I’m a “beautiful outside, dying inside” according to him. I smile whenever I remember it. Well, it’s not my heart that’s dying, it’s my problematic body.

All I could do now is praying for my health and becoming more concern on what I should consume—more vegetables and fruits! Not to forget to always get enough rest and leave the hard work for a while just like what doctor advises. Besides, I always try to do self-healing. You know, understanding what my body needs does help the healing process after surgery, physically and mentally.

I deliver this message to whoever reads this writing. I want to share my experiences with a lot of people, ‘cause I know there are many people out there who face the similar problems like mine but have no place or even shy to share theirs. Well, sometimes the ones we expect the support comes from are not the ones who give it. The only person we should always ask for support is ourselves.

You may say, “Andra, you look happy and healthy!” or “Oh, you’re so glowing!”, but in reality, the condition inside my body doesn’t look like that. No matter what, I always try to have all positive mindset in facing problems. There’s no need to be sad, why should I waste my time in blue? I’m thankful for I’m still able to wake up every morning, do my job, blog, think creative, inspire people through pictures and words, and I still have my family around. They make me feel as if I have nothing left behind.

The point is, whatever kind of problem you’re facing, don’t feel sorry yourself. Get over it and be thankful to God. Don’t ever compare your life to others, don’t think too much about money, get away from social media and people who spend their time gossiping. Instead, make time for the ones that you care for and do the same for you. The ones who wouldn’t stop giving you support and love you need. Spend your time to do something positive and think positive. Though you’re facing a puzzling moment, just face it with a wide smile. :)

Thank you everyone for your love and support. And thanks for reading!

*IVF = IN-VITRO FERTILIZATION/BAYI TABUNG
PHOTO COURTESY OF COTTONINK.CO.ID - BY SABILA ANJANI

23 comments:

  1. Assalamualaikum Wr Wb Andra, you already inspire us with your healthy and beauty daily routine.Your kindness will be recompensed by Allah swt. All of us prayed for your happiness.

    Wassalam,
    Nunung

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  2. Assalamualaikum kak Andra.
    Terimakasih untuk kata2 yang selalu mengispirasi. Kalau saya di posisi kakak belum tentu saya bisa sepositif kak Andra.
    Semoga Allah senantiasa memberikan kak Andra kesehatan dan jalan keluar dari permasalahan ya kak. Aamiin.
    Wassalamualaikum,
    Rani.

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  3. Halo Andra..

    Selalu semangat dan think positive ya! Insya Allah, kalau udah jalannya pasti bisa diberikan anak.. Amin YRA..

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  4. Selalu semangat ya ka Andra.. terima kasih untuk inspirasinya..

    aku sangat suka dengan kata2 di paragraf ini..
    " The point is, whatever kind of problem you’re facing, don’t feel sorry yourself. Get over it and be thankful to God. Don’t ever compare your life to others, don’t think too much about money, get away from social media and people who spend their time gossiping. Instead, make time for the ones that you care for and do the same for you. The ones who wouldn’t stop giving you support and love you need. Spend your time to do something positive and think positive. Though you’re facing a puzzling moment, just face it with a wide smile. :) "

    wish you a good day :)

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  5. Kak Alooo... you're so inspiring and always have positive mind. Thank you for always inspire us. :*
    We always pray the best for you, and I'm sure Allah will give you the best thing in life after all of these. Keep inspring!

    xoxo,
    Fetty

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  6. HI ANdra...

    Semangat ya, saya juga mengalami yang sama. Satu ovary kanan sudah di remove dan 2 minggu lalu sewaktu cek ke Penang ternyata di Ovary kiri muncul kista lagi padahal selama ini bersih dan ukurannya sudah 5 CM. Di uterus juga muncul miom padahal setahun lalu sudah di operasi. Dokter bilang jalan satu2nya jika masih ingin punya anak harus mencoba lewat IVF.

    Semoga jalan kita dilancarkan ya dan terus sehat-sehat aja. *peluk dari Medan*

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  7. Selamat siang kak Alodita, thank you so much for sharing yaa kak :"))) semoga semakin dikuatkan ya kak.. :* have a happy day ya kak alo :) Ganbatte! ♥

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  8. Hi Alo

    I really glad that you're still glowing more each day :)
    Honestly I just read you're post about your surgeries and the things that happen to you, and suddenly I can't hide my tears. Even I haven't get married, but I can feel how you feel. And I really proud of your hubby who accompany you to face this things together, and also the supports from others. You know, the pain will so useful someday, I know if it's totally make you so stressful and sad, but I really appreciate for the smiles that you've spread through your social media. Remember, you are special that's why God give you chances to make your body, your life, and your world better.

    Cheers,

    Miw.

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  9. dear andra,

    baca postinganmu bener-bener menginspirasi aku banget..
    terutama karena kita sama2 berjuang buat bisa hamil dan diberi keturunan ya.
    aku juga udah 3 tahun ini TTC, sempet hamil 3x tapi itu smua keguguran..
    sempet operasi laparaskopi juga buat buat endometriosis dan miom..
    suka down kalo lihat orang yg baru nikah udah hamil, temen-temen yg udah pada punya anak, tapi kemudian aku sadar mungkin kita dikasih tuhan kesempatan besar untuk lebih bersabar..
    aku percaya sih mungkin nanti kita juga akan diberi kesempatan sama tuhan.. tetep semangat ya andra..

    oia, makasi yaa kamu udah mau berbagi cerita dan baca postinganmu bener2 menambah semangat buat kita semua yg lagi berusaha untuk hamil..

    hugs,

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  10. semoga kita semua bisa selalu ingat untuk bersyukur apapun keadaannya ...

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  11. Me to andra, had ivf twice and failed. EVerything will be okay, if its not okay then its not the end. Chin up darling and be happy....

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  12. assalamualaikum kak andra....tau kak andra pertama kali dari artikel di kompas...bahkan aku gak tau itu tahun berapa...lalu ngikutin blog kak andra yg lama..baca cerita cinta nya , ampe foto en cerita lamaran di taman yang bikin ngirii abiiiieeees...hehhee..lalu follow instagram dan sekarang ngikutin web kak andra ini....dan cerita cerita soal kesehatan kak andra sangat menginspirasi aku soal pentingnya jaga kesehatan...apalagi buat wanita muda ...walaupun aku belum menikah, tapi cerita kak andra menyadarkan aku akan banyak hal...sikap positif thinking dan semangat yang coba kak andra sebarin lewat tulisan sangat bermanfaat....Rasululah bersabda, sebaik-baik manusia di antara kamu adalah yang paling banyak manfaat bagi orang lain....semoga kak andra termasuk di dalamnya....semangat terus...Allah Maha Pengasih lagi Maha Penyayang, gak akan memberikan cobaan diluar kemampuan hambaNya....hope u always have beautiful days kak andra.... kiss hugs

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  13. This is what I adore about you. You choose to beat those pain with smiles. It's genuine for me and people love you for that. And yes you look positive and tough for someone who has gone through a lot because you are loved and you give love back as much as they do, and I think putting all these into writing somehow released a small part of the burden. I cheer for you, Alo :)

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  14. thanks for sharing Andra, kita hampir "senasib". Aku pernah gagal insem & ivf juga. Sempat sedih juga tapi gak mau lama2.. harus semangat lagi berjuang!!


    kiss & hugs

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  15. kak andra tetep semangat ya. aku berdoa semoga kak andra selalu diberi kemudahan dalam hal apapun. kak andra udah baik bagi tips sehat buat setiap pembaca kak andra, semoga Tuhan selalu kasih kak andra kesehatan. jangan menyerah ya kak, semangat. doa terbaik untuk kak andra, amin :)

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  16. Dear kak Andra, terimakasih sudah share pengalaman kakak yang satu ini. Jujur aku merasa turut sedih, that must be really pain and been in hard times. Salut kak. Tetap semangat ya kak, aku dan semua yang baca ini pasti turut mendoakan kesehatan kakak, serta semua yang terbaik buat kakak. Semangat berjuang kak! :)

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  17. Kita semua belajar dari cerita-mu..Tetap semangat yaa! and keep smile! ;D
    *Bajunya cute, ada bordiran lemonnya :D*

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  18. dear mba andra..
    sy persis pernah merasakan berada di posisi yang sama seperti mba dua tahun lalu, setelah berjuang hamil normal selama 4tahun tp belum berhasil.. laparoscopy tapi sy bersikeras tidak mau membuang kedua tuba sy. ujungnya sy memang menjalani ivf setahun setelah operasi, and i have twin.. all i want to say is, i hope that Allah will give you the best for your life, semoga ada akhir yang manis dari perjuangan mba ini. tetap semangat n keep on positive thinking ya mba :)

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  19. Hey Alodita,

    I've been a passive reader, until now. Not very long ago, my husband and I were trying to have a baby too. Our story wasn't as gruelsome as yours, and I can only imagine what you're going through. But I know how it feels to be let down in each visit to the doctor. Keep hearing bad news is bad for our morale. After failing two insemination, due to my very low ovum supply, doctors urge me to take IVF which of course takes a lot of commitment. In times of desperation, as our last resort before we commit to IVF, we went to see a sinshe in ITC Permata Hijau. He checked both of us and told us where the problem is then he gave us prescribed herbal medicines. In the same time, my friend suggested us to take the Manuka Honey 400. In the following month, came the news we've been waiting for.
    Anyway, I understand your case is different. However this sinshe has dealt with many patients with cyst and other issues. From my experience, I think his method is to get our body fit and ready to conceive.
    Well I believe that God works in mysterious way. In my case, He worked through sinshe. Sometimes alternative medication (with herbal medicine) can be a good compliment to modern medication. If you are interested and willing to try, I can give you his contact details to your email.
    Well, I sincerely wish you the best. Your struggle is inspiring. Hope you stay positive and surrender to God's will.

    Cheers!

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    1. mba agnes..boleh minta alamat sinshe nya kah? klo boleh minta tolong kirim ke email aku ya mba rinisadiono@yahoo.co.id many thanks mba..

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  20. So inspiring.. thank you for sharing mba..

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  21. Assalamualaikum Andra, Salam Persahabatan from Malaysia. First time ever read your blog, you're such an inspiring women, wife and mother. Strong enough to get through all God test. May Allah gives you a good health always.

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  22. Assalamualaikum Andra, Salam Persahabatan from Malaysia. First time ever read your blog, you're such an inspiring women, wife and mother. Strong enough to get through all God test. May Allah gives you a good health always.

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